Wellbeing means something different to each of us. For me, Wellbeing is the life-long process of consciously developing habits that ensure our emotional and creative needs are met. I like to think of it as the other side of the “mental health coin”: when we actively maintain our Wellbeing, we create the necessary resilience to cope with life’s challenges, safeguarding our mental health. There are many facets to our Wellbeing. Some, like self-care, are more obvious but there are other aspects of ourselves we don’t tend to associate with Wellbeing that also need attention. As you explore this site it is my hope that you will discover what areas of your Wellbeing you are already attending to, and bring awareness to the aspects that may need some reflection.
The above-defined concept of Wellbeing is fairly new and, until quite recently, Wellbeing has been treated as something we address in response to a stressful life event or poor mental health. In other words we tend to wait until we are unwell (physically, mentally or both) before we take action. This is not ideal and I’m sure something we would rather avoid for ourselves and certainly help our children avoid for the course of their lifetime.
So what if we started teaching Wellbeing to our children? Our world is changing at a pace never before seen or imagined and let’s face it, we cannot possibly conceive of what our children will be facing in the future. So what if we decided right now to meet this uncertainty by arming our children with the tools they will need to navigate whatever future they encounter?
I believe that cultivating and maintaining Wellbeing has to start in early childhood and it has to start with you, the parent. Children learn the behaviours and habits that we model for them.
So what are you already doing to empower your children to look after their Wellbeing?
About Luminous Well
Imagine you are in your favourite bit of countryside on a glorious summer’s day. There before you is an old stone well. You lean over looking down into its depths, but all you see is black. You find a pebble, chuck it in but the anticipated “plop” never comes. The well is empty and cold.
Luminous Well is all about learning how to fill your own well so that you can be well. Modern life can drain our reservoir of energy, passion, creativity and joy so that at best we feel content; at worst we feel totally depleted and miserable. By becoming aware of our needs and learning practical tools we can ensure our reservoir is continually replenished.
• To redefine Wellbeing as the life-long process beginning in childhood of consciously developing habits that ensure our emotional and creative needs are met, empowering us to thrive in an uncertain world.
• To provide a safe, supportive space for you to discover the tools and cultivate the skills that will enable you to develop your own Wellbeing.
• To teach you practical tools that will help you cultivate Wellbeing for yourself and your family.
My interest in the mind and brain began during my undergraduate study of psychology, specialising in cognitive neuroscience. In 2002, I emigrated from my hometown, Vancouver, to Saffron Walden where I continued working in the area of mental health as a researcher in the Department of Developmental Psychiatry at the University of Cambridge, investigating the relationship between stress hormones and antisocial behaviour in young people.
In 2007 I completed a PGCE and became a full-time reception teacher. During my training I encountered Relax Kids, a company aimed at teaching children the tools to empower them to manage their Wellbeing through a unique class format and range of products.
In 2010 I gave birth to my first son, Oliver, and my passion for teaching Wellbeing to children grew. Going back into schools after having a child of my own, I realised how much pressure there is on kids to be constantly engaged with the external environment, providing very little opportunity or encouragement to connect with their internal selves. In 2011 I completed the Relax Kids training and immediately began teaching classes in school with great success.
After the birth of my second son in 2012, I began thinking about a parent’s role in the Wellbeing of their children. We are our children’s first and most influential teachers. They learn far more from what we do than what we say. And so it was that I have refocused my energy on teaching Wellbeing to parents as well as teaching them how to model Wellbeing for their children.